I know there’s a big chance you’ve been told your entire life that your wedding is the happiest day of your life. That it should be perfect because you only get “one day”. That’s wrong.
#1 – What a depressing way to kick off a relationship, starting at the peak, then knowing it’s all going to be downhill from there.
#2 – I wish you all the happiest days in the world, that each day only gets better and more amazing because you and your partner get to grow closer to each other.
#3 – A wedding is a party. Granted it’s usually the most expensive party you’ll ever throw, but in all honesty, you can ALWAYS have another party. For serious.
Some people are just jerks. Maybe they’re jealous, maybe they get off on making others feel bad, regardless, they don’t even factor into your universe. Let them have their little dramas, you’re above all that.
If I told you a client said this to me, that’ll make it creepy. You have to know, we had just wrapped up an awesome party, clients were a wee bit toasty. But what I got out of it was, for a couple who’s usually keyed up like no tomorrow, the essence of me being around was something they want in their lives all the time. Sweet, not creepy.
Give me one friend, just one, who meets the needs of all my varying moods.~ Esther M. Clark
From a study done in 2011, turns out over half of people find wedding planning stressful. Examining it shows that some of the most stressful parts are the logistics of the event, the very thing that wedding planners exist for.
I got this from a client, and it was honestly one of the highest compliments I could have received. What does a sherpa do? They carry your burdens, and if the situation calls for it, they save your life. I’m honored to have been that person for someone.
One of the fantastic things about the world we live in is we’re allowed choices and individuality. So while one couple might want an understated garden party wedding another might want an underground rave with circus performers. One might spend sparingly and the other might splurge. The fantastic thing is, no one gets to judge you.
All the blogs, the magazines, your friends and family might focus on the details, your clothes, the food, your flowers, the invitations, crafty DIY projects, but those things do not matter. Don’t get me wrong, they’re fun, but they aren’t the focus of a wedding. If they cease to be fun or if they take center stage, you need to take a step back and revisit what this wedding is about. Hang out with your partner in crime, enjoy being with each other, and by the time you get back to the “Stuff”, you’ll realize how little you care about it.
On occasion, there are times where you might want a buffer between you and your parents. Or, on your wedding day, you want them to relax and not be obsessed with making everyone else happy. Regardless of if you want someone to play bad guy, and be lambasted at every family reunion from now til forever, or you want someone who can keep your Grandma company while everyone is on the dance floor, I can help with that.
Weddings are a multi billion dollar business. And for every site/book/forum/guru you find, there’s going to be another site/book/forum/guru that vehemently disagrees with them. It’s really confusing to find a direction, when all the signs do is tell you to ignore the other signs.
A wedding is the formalization of a partnership, there are two people involved (sometimes more), and it’s equally important for both partners. None of this “It’s the bride’s day”, or “They care more about it than I do”. Good God, you have found someone who loves you, who wants to spend the rest of their lives with you! Who want their names next to yours on ancestry.com for the next thousand years. Who wants to make sure that their identity is tangled up with yours forever. You owe it to yourself and your partner to nurture that and give it the respect it deserves.
It is so easy to get obsessed with this wedding, to let it consume you, so every conversation revolves around the wedding, then when it’s over you feel empty and let down inside. Want to know how to stop that? Live an awesome kick ass life WHILE you’re planning.
It doesn’t have to be like this, what with the stress, and the expectations. Couples should be able to enjoy the time building up to their wedding, and I’m going to do everything in my power to make that happen, regardless of how messy it gets.